10 Lies Compulsive Gamblers Tell
A compulsive gambler is someone who seems to tell never-ending tales and cycles of lies, half-truths and deliberate distortion of facts. It is important to note that gambling can be just as difficult of an addiction as anything else and that oftentimes people need help beyond what their loved ones or family can provide.
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Here are some of the common lies told by compulsive gamblers and why it matters to pay attention when you hear these cues.
- There’s no problem: any person who denies a gambling problem exists in spite of the evidence is either already into full-blown addiction or on their way to it rapidly. Gambling addicts can stay in denial as a coping mechanism used to mask his or her problems.
- I can stop if I want: The gambler is unable to admit to him or herself a problem exists and there is a way to stop it. The gambler will return right back to the behavior when cravings are too strong to ignore.
- I’m not hurting anyone: most people with addiction believe this lie and the addiction is hurting everyone, including the person with the addiction. Gambling addiction is no different than other addictions in that many people are impacted negatively by the one person’s behavior and actions.
- I didn’t gamble: Just as if the person reeks of cigarette smoke or smells of alcohol and denies having done anything, the denial will add fuel to the fire of an already burning addiction.
- Gambling is under control: Gamblers have no control over what is going on, in fact, it is just the opposite. Enabling the person will allow it to continue so it is best to not continue giving money to a person who continually asks if gambling is suspected.
- Savings is fine: desperation will set in and a person will go after whatever money he or she can lay hands on to make things work. All the futile attempts to keep from the truth result in not being able to resist the fact things are spiraling quickly downward.
- Believe it or not… more exaggerations and lies come fast and furious. All this will come out and it is easy to want to believe but it is more likely than not a convincing lie the person tells him or herself and others. Don’t believe it.
- My friend is in trouble: the lie is one that every compulsive gambler uses to their benefit. The elaborate, exaggerated story is part of the repertoire by now the gambler uses to continue with the addictive behaviors.
- Trust me: Compulsive gamblers need to continue addictive behavior and either has a complicit partner or must convince others to keep giving money, time and energy to fuel addiction. This is the time to seek help.
- Gambling will stop: Instead of letting the lie go unchallenged, make the decision to handle the addiction and tell the person how his or her gambling has hurt the family. Tell the person it is time to seek help because it will not and cannot stop without support from many different people. Encourage treatment and support the person through the journey to recovery.
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