8 Reasons Why People Are Afraid to Be Sober

8 Reasons Why People Are Afraid to Be Sober

Most people do not want to get sober, that’s just a fact. When a person experiences a great deal of pain, change is the only option and change is painful in itself. So much so that people often choose addiction over recovery to keep the pain away. Addiction becomes a person’s identity and separation from that means forging a new identity and path in life. Fear is why many people do not get sober but it is possible to get there. Find out some reasons why people are afraid to get sober and how to get past it and move forward.

Reasons to Hate Sobriety

It stinks

Fear of the unknown is a huge factor in not stopping addiction. Sobriety may seem lame and boring compared to active addiction. It may even be something a person hates to consider and thinks will be more miserable than the life being lived right now. Most people with addiction don’t know anything about sobriety and fear the unknown but the assumption is made before sobriety is even tried.

Fear of failure

Nobody wants to fail at anything. It’s a basic human instinct to survive and thrive. Sobriety can be daunting so it is not surprising many people are afraid to fail. Fear of relapse may keep a person drinking or using drugs for quite some time until a person realizes failure can happen but only if the person keeps trying to grow.

It will be boring

Life seems so exciting inside of addiction but that does not account for those who suffer on the outside (family, friends, loved ones). When a person is convinced addiction is more exciting, it is hard to see sobriety as the better alternative.

Knowing thyself is half the battle

Addiction covers up one’s true self. A person becomes deeply embedded into addiction until sobriety comes and clears out the mind. It is scary at first but finding out who a person really is can be an exciting, rather than scary, journey.

Afraid of pain

Pain is what is usually avoided with addiction. Feeling pain is not fun but it is part of getting sober. Pain can be worked through rather than numbing feelings. Over time the pain lessens and hope for better days arises in its place.


A person may be convinced that denial is the best route by being surrounded by those who drink or use drugs but it only lasts so long. The fog of denial has to lift at some point when a person realizes the true dangers of drinking or using drugs. Admitting a problem exists is the first step to seeking help but is usually the toughest.

That story belongs to others

Sobriety in a world of people who drink is no picnic but it is possible. Many people don’t want to be different so try to fit in and keep doing what seems best and easiest. The idea of not drinking with friends who do drink may continue the behavior to maintain relationships thinking that’s not a story to embrace for one’s own life, it belongs to others.

Not up to it

Well into sobriety, a person may finally realize the sober life is great. During the first year is not that time. It typically takes a year to grasp the concept of not ever drinking or doing drugs again. Many people fear sobriety and having to deal with telling others and dread the prospect. It is easier to keep up the charade rather than quit.

Getting sober may be scary but it is the best decision you will ever make. Call Blueprints to find out how we can help you with our programs and provide support for the journey. Today is the best day to quit and get on track with your sober living goals. We are here to help make that happen.


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